The other day, we had a snowball fight.
In Peru.
Where it’s hot, dry and never snows.
I know, right.
Crazy.
But yeah…
It happened 🤷
Here’s how the snowball fight went down:
Ellie bought some rice from the local tienda on the main road (“tienda” is Spanish for “store”).
She brought it home.
Cooked it up.
Threw some chicken on top of it.
Problem was…
The rice was stodgy AF.
It came out like porridge.
Thick.
Dull.
Gross.
I usually eat 3 cups of rice with dinner… but I could barely get 1 cup of this sludgy mess down.
Ughh.
So instead, we decided to have a snowball fight with the rice.
Well, “riceball”.
I grabbed a handful.
Used my hands to mould it into a beautiful ball.
And then…
I threw it.
As it flew threw the air, it made that nice whistling sound you hear in cartoons when a nuclear warhead falls through the sky.
My aim was perfect… like Legolas in Lord of the Rings.
It was a homing missile heading straight for Ellie’s head.
“Man, I should have been a sniper”, I thought to myself.
But THEN…
Our roommate Sean walked out from his office, fresh from a call with a client.
He was clearly looking for something refreshing.
A cold glass of water.
A juicy steak.
Or hey, maybe a high five.
I mean, he was exhausted and ready for a relaxing break.
But instead, that whistling riceball flew smack bang into his face.
In slo-mo, I might add.
Just like the movies.
Oops 🙊
Sorry Sean.
Anyway, the sight of stodgy rice slowly dripping off Sean’s weary face got me thinking.
This is just like life.
Sometimes, all we want is a cold glass of water or a juicy steak…
…but instead, shit happens.
Things break.
People leave.
We get hurt.
But what’s interesting is that not everyone reacts the same to stuff like this.
Some people crumble under the pressure while others rise to the challenge.
Some get weaker while others get stronger and more resilient.
Now of course, there’s a lot of different reasons why this happens.
But you wanna know what one huge factor is?
Someone’s level of nervous system regulation.
That is…
Someone’s ability to manage and regulate their level of activation and arousal (NERVOUS SYSTEM arousal 😏).
In more practical terms…
It’s someone’s ability to manage fear, anger, shame, guilt, negative thinking and so on.
Question is…
How do we do that?
Well, meditation helps.
Yoga.
Journaling.
Gratitude.
Talking to a friend.
All the usual stuff.
But the simple fact is that all of that usually only goes surface level.
The truth is…
If we want to build true, deep, LASTING nervous system regulation, we gotta go into the dungeon of our soul… where all that old, sticky stuff from the past hangs out.
We can’t just stay at the level of the mind.
In our thoughts.
We have to go into our body… where the ROOTS are.
That’s where Rageheart comes in.
It’s a manual for your nervous system.
How to build your capacity and unblock your “pipes”.
How to feel (instead of just thinking about everything).
How to wake up that beast inside you and remember who you are.
If that sounds good to you, you know what to do.
Hit the link below and sign up today:
If the page just says “closed”, all g. It’ll open again soon. Later this month I’m thinking.
Or reply to this email and tell me why you need to get in NOW. I make exceptions to the whole /closed/ thing depending on the person and situation.
If you’re already a member and in the mood for a rage, get after it 💪
Anyway, that’s it for today.
I’m off to record another rage for the Rageheart app.
John out.
P.S. Watch out for the riceballs coming your way.
Remember, every riceball from life can destroy you or make you stronger.
It’s up to YOU which one you go with.