So says one of my teachers in the world of nervous system healing.
In the Western world, we’re addicted to fast.
If it’s not fast, we don’t want it.
If it’s slow, we think something’s wrong. That the thing is broken. That it’s not for us.
I used to be like this.
If something didn’t work within a few weeks or months, I’d assume it wasn’t working and move on.
New Facebook ad campaign not working? Dump it.
New workout program isn’t giving me abs in 3 weeks? Kill it.
New relationship isn’t making me head over heels in love immediately? It’s clearly doomed.
This addiction to fast made it impossible to create the life that I wanted.
When I first discovered the world of nervous system healing, I brought that same “fast fast fast” mindset with me.
I thought if it was as powerful as some people said, it should be able to “fix me” in weeks or at least months.
“WTF is this about YEARS?”, I remember thinking.
But over time, I gradually learned that good things take time – especially when it comes to the nervous system, stored survival stress and unresolved fight-or-flight responses.
Think about it.
Your various conditioning and programming in your nervous system was laid down over DECADES.
That means you’re not going to clear all of it in 3 weeks or even 3 months. Even if you have something as powerful as Rageheart. Even if you execute it flawlessly.
Yes, you’ll clear a bunch of the old BS and you’ll probably feel a hell of a lot better as a result… but unless you’ve lived an almost perfect life, there’s going to be a lot more that needs to come out.
That takes time.
How much time?
It varies from person to person but expect to spend at least a few years working on yourself in this way. And if you’ve been through some real serious things (war, rape, etc), you may be looking at 5-7 years or even 10+ years to fully regulate your nervous system.
I’m 3 years into this myself and while I’ve come a long way since I started, I know that my journey is in no way complete or finished.
That’s probably not what you want to hear but it’s the truth.
Like I said the other day…
You can’t rush your healing.
The thing is…
Getting stuck in fight-or-flight happens because some experience was too much, too fast, too soon. It’s literally a result of overwhelm and moving too quickly.
That’s why moving quickly doesn’t work to fix it. It just reinforces the same basic dysfunctional conditioning.
That’s why in the world of nervous system healing slow = fast. Or as one of my teachers likes to say, go slow to go fast. The idea is… if you rush this process, you’ll slow everything down. But if you move slowly and carefully, the healing process speeds up.
If you’re looking for a quick fix, don’t come to me and don’t come to Rageheart. Go find someone else who’s promising the quick fix. You won’t have trouble finding them – there’s tons of them out there. Just don’t be surprised when you’re still the same person after 5 years.
On the other hand, if you’re prepared to play the long game in exchange for real, deep, LASTING change, sign up when it opens in January.
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P.S. Just because it takes a while to fully regulate the nervous system doesn’t mean that nothing good happens along the way.
Like I said, I’m 3 years in and I’ve had a TON of amazing things happen. I have more energy than ever more. More drive and discipline. More focus. More joy and happiness. More peace. Real purpose and fulfilment. I sleep fine most nights and I have no trouble falling asleep or waking up. Relationships are smoother and easier. There’s less BS and less drama. And my mind has less power over me than ever more. I can make my thoughts stop any time I like.
See what I mean?
Good things happen along the entire journey – that’s why I’m still doing it with myself, 3 years after I started. But at the same time, you can’t rush it. It takes its own time.