I was in Cusco recently for a Tinder date and it got me thinking…
Dating is ALL about safety, kisses and inflatable butt plugs 🍆
With kisses, it’s obvious.
Whether we like a little tongue or not, we all want to kiss and be kissed.
Then there’s inflatable butt plugs.
Admittedly, they’re not everyone’s cup of tea…
Some people don’t even know what they’re for (I overhead a conversation recently where an old lady said inflatable butt plugs are for preventing farts during sex 🤷♂️)…
…but that doesn’t mean that some people don’t love them.
Inflatable butt plugs could also be a symbol of sexual pleasure, and as we all know, most people want a bit of that in their lives.
Finally, there’s the little-known linchpin of dating:
I would go so far as to say that dating is ALL about safety.
For example, if you don’t feel safe with someone, there’s no way you’ll let them kiss you or stick an inflatable butt plug in your ass.
Safety first ⚠️
On the other hand, if you feel completely safe with someone – such as a long-term partner – you might be fine to skip the small talk and go straight to the kissing and inflatable butt plug shenanigans.
See what I mean?
Safety is the real foundation of dating and relationships.
If you really think about it, all the various mating and courting rituals that humans have are about establishing safety.
For example, the only reason you don’t immediately start kissing some new hot person on the street or in the mall is because it’s not safe.
You don’t know if they like you… or if they’re dangerous… or if they crack too many Dad jokes… or if they smell like 3-day old rotten fish.
In other words…
You don’t feel safe.
Not yet anyway.
That’s why we need to talk to someone before we kiss them for the first time. We need to get to know them.
It’s all basically an elaborate ritual of safety.
I’d take it even further:
Safety is the foundation of EVERYTHING in our lives… not just dating, sex and inflatable butt plugs.
Think about it.
If you don’t feel safe, do you think you’ll be able to focus on your work?
You’ll be busy scanning for potential threats in your environment… even if only subconsciously. All the energy that you could’ve spent on getting shit done goes to making sure you don’t die.
What about your relationships? Will you be a better friend, father, mother, son or daughter if you feel unsafe?
Again, HELL NO.
You’ll be too busy scanning for threats and protecting yourself. You’ll be more likely to lash out and say things you don’t really mean – all because it makes you feel a little bit safer – even if it means damaging the relationship.
Or think about what happens when you buy something from someone.
You might check the reviews to see if the company is trustworthy or ask your friends for a referral, all to find out if it’s safe to buy the thing from the company.
Getting in your own way? Imposter syndrome? Self-sabotaging?
It’s because success and failure make you feel unsafe. What will people say if you fail? What about if you succeed?
In other words…
Everything is about safety.
The big, fat, definitely not Greek question, is:
If safety is the foundation of everything in our lives, why does no one talk about it?
Self-help books, courses and conferences.
All the other random shit people do.
Does ANY of it talk about safety in the nervous system?
It’s about calming down, taking a deep breath, writing about your problems, emptying your mind and playing with inflatable butt plugs.
That’s why most self-help strategies don’t work. They don’t deal with the root issue: a lack of safety in the nervous system.
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In more simple terms:
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