I also know you hate it.
You wish you could stop stalking your ex on social media, refreshing Gmail 281 times a day and checking YouTube for celebrity interviews and funny cat videos.
You wish you could just focus on that project that’s important to you instead.
I mean, it’s REAL important to you, isn’t it?
And hey, if you got it done, your life would change, wouldn’t it?
BIG TIME 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
But instead of getting it done, you have this incredible ability to find a million other urgent-but-definitely-not-important things to do (like watching cats push other cats down the stairs or buying that sex swing you’ve had your eye on for a while).
The question is…
Is it that you’re just undisciplined?
Maybe you just need to try harder?
Or hey, maybe something’s wrong with you and you’re simply not cut out for it.
Maybe you need to meditate 🙄
Or make a list of what you’re grateful for.
Or journal about it.
Or dance naked around a bonfire under the full moon with a rose quartz necklace around your neck, singing KUM BY YA while throwing flower petals into the air.
YEAH! THAT’LL FIX IT!!!!!!!!$%!!!*!!!!!!1!!!11111!!!!!
Except you’ve tried all that.
Like Trinity says to Neo in The Matrix (best movie ever btw)..
You’ve been down there. You know that road. You know exactly where it ends. And I know that’s not where you want to be.
Well, I have GOOD NEWS for you…
The usual crap doesn’t work for procrastination because none of it deals with the ROOT issue:
You don’t feel safe.
Note the word “feel”.
Sure, you might THINK you’re safe.
The question is…
Do you FEEL it?
In your gut?
In the dark and delicious depths of your nervous system?
If you like to procrastinate, then I think it’s safe to say (HA! See what I did there!?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣) that you don’t feel safe.
Think about it.
Imagine that there was a tiger nearby.
Do you think you’d be able to focus on your important project?
Of course not.
You’d be too busy looking for the tiger while figuring out how to GTFO of there.
The reason we procrastinate is because we don’t feel safe.
I know that there aren’t any tigers nearby… but let me ask you this:
Did you grow up in a perfectly safe home where you always felt loved, nurtured and protected?
Or did you have to worry about abusive or manipulative parents?
What about school?
Was it a perfectly safe, enjoyable place?
Or did you deal with bullies and teachers who took out their suppressed rage on you?
Or coming back to the present day, do you feel perfectly at ease in our modern society?
Or do you worry about money, pimples on your face and whether or not Steve from Human Resources likes you?
If you’re anything like most people, the answer to all of these questions is:
You’ve lived a life where a lot of the time, you didn’t feel safe or perfectly protected.
Now here’s the thing:
Unless you know how to return your system to a state of safety, it can get stuck in a state of threat and activation.
THAT’S why we procrastinate.
We’re stuck in a state of threat and activation from years and decades gone by and the various things we do to procrastinate (social media, Youtube and throwing rice at our roommate Sean’s face) are attempts to soothe our state of activation.
But that’s a distraction – not a solution – since Youtube and all that doesn’t give us what we actually need:
A felt-sense of safety in our nervous system.
That’s a big part of what we do inside Rageheart – especially in Rage 13 and 15:
Restore a deep and profound level of safety to the nervous system.
It takes time but eventually, procrastination becomes less and less of an issue.
If you want to try it out for yourself, start by looking around the room you’re in and see if it’s safe.
That’s the first step.
If you want to go further, come join me inside Rageheart when it opens later this month.
If you’re already a member and feeling the impulse (Rage 9), hit the sign in link and RAGE: