Safe to be a freak

John Wood, Founder of Rageheart

by John Wood

I love it when I wake up before my alarm goes off in the morning.

530am today… my eyes open. 

I look outside.

Sun’s out, birds are singing and my stomach’s rumbling like a freight train passing by the city.

Gorgeous πŸ™‚

I get up, chuck my shoes on and head out the door for a morning walk.

While I’m walking I find myself thinking about how most human issues all stem from a lack of safety.

“Safety” might sound like a boring idea but hear me out.

Social anxiety? 

In the most basic level, you don’t feel safe. 

Sure, someone might judge you or say something or you might do something and look like an idiot… but what does all of that come back to?


If you felt safe enough, it wouldn’t matter if someone said something or you made a stupid mistake – you wouldn’t give a shit because you’d know you’re 100% safe.

You’d feel safe enough to let your freak flag fly 😎

See what I mean?


Again, it’s a safety thing.

If you do whatever it is that you want to do, you might in trouble, someone might not like it or you might get rejected.

In other words, you (and your nervous system) don’t feel safe enough to do the thing.

Can’t sleep?

You don’t feel safe.

If you (even subconsciously) think or feel that there’s a tiger nearby, a screaming parent, or something similar, or if your system is stuck in threat-mode from stored survival stress of decades gone by, you won’t feel safe 

And if you don’t feel safe, you have to keep scanning the environment for threats to make sure you don’t get attacked or eaten alive.

And that means… 

No sleep for you.

Is this making sense?

It ALL comes back to safety.

But what does meditation tell you to do?

“Take a deep breath and let it go”

Gratitude lists?

“Think about what you’re grateful for”

Talk therapy?

“Tell me about your childhood”

The problem is…

NONE of this has anything to do with safety.

That’s why traditional self-help strategies rarely shift deep-seated issues that we’ve had for a LONG time.

Unless they increase the sense of safety in your nervous system, they’re nothing more than glorified bandaids.

Useful, sure, in the same way that bandaids are useful for small cuts and scrapes… but not so useful when it comes to restoring a sense of safety to our nervous system.

That’s where Rageheart comes in.

Inside Rage 13 and 15, you learn how to orient to the safety in your environment as well as the safety inside your body.

The better you get at this, the less social anxiety you have, the better you sleep, the better you digest food, the less you procrastinate… you get the idea πŸ˜€

Lack of safety is the root issue in so many cases… so tuning in to safety is the real solution (NOT taking a deep breath or any of that bandaid BS).

If you want to experience it for yourself, come join me inside Rageheart the next time it opens.

If you’re already a member and feeling the impulse (Rage 9), hit the link below and do another Rage today:


Stay safe,

John Wood

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