When I was a kid, I’d sometimes have a problem with my Dad.
He wasn’t violent or anything like that… but he could be a massive pain in the ass.
So I’d be honest with him and tell him how I felt.
Like a lot of parents, he hated it.
Instead of taking my feedback seriously, he’d manipulate me into thinking I was the one with the problem:
“Oh, don’t be so uptight and critical” (gaslighting)
“It’s not THAT big of a deal” (minimization)
“How can you say that when I’ve done so much for you?” (guilt-tripping)
For a long time, it worked.
I thought I was the problem.
That something was wrong with me (for feeling how I felt).
That he was the victim and I was to blame.
Then one day I realized that it wasn’t about me at all.
I realized that he felt some healthy shame for whatever mistake I’d pointed out…
…and that this little bit of healthy shame had triggered the mountain of toxic shame that he carried from his childhood (where his parents has guilt-tripped and gaslit him).
The problem was…
He wasn’t ready to deal with the mountain of toxic shame from his childhood.
Nor did he know how (ie. he didn’t have the tools inside Rageheart).
So to cheer himself up and distract him from his own shame, he shamed me.
Because hey, as long as I’m the one to blame, he doesn’t have to feel ashamed.
This is how survival stress gets passed on from generation to generation.
Parents (and caregivers) unwittingly pass their unresolved anger, fear, pain, shame and guilt onto the next generation because they’re not willing (or don’t know how) to deal with it in a healthy way.
This is why the Rageheart approach to healing is so much bigger than just you or me.
It affects everyone you interact with (and the world around you).
Your current or future children.
The random people you bump into at the shops.
The entire planet.
Think about it.
As you clear out the unresolved fear, anger, shame, etc, from your system (the stored survival stress), you stop putting it into the people around you.
You become kinder.
More compassionate and understanding.
You have more empathy.
You’re more generous.
You’re more interested in helping others (instead of only yourself).
I could go on… but you get the idea.
In other words:
Heal yourself = heal the planet.
That’s where Rageheart comes in.
It’s a step-by-step system for clearing all these old survival charges so we stop putting them into the people (and the earth) around us.
Get started today: https://www.rageheart.co/app/
(Or if you’re already a member and in the mood, hit the “Sign In” link and do another rage.)