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Emotions Are For Weaklings, Losers And Bitches

John Wood, Founder of Rageheart

by John Wood

“Boys don’t cry.”

“Nice girls don’t get angry.”

If you grew up in the Western world, you were probably exposed to these ideas and beliefs… if not explicitly, then at least implicitly 😬

As a result…

Most boys/men feel weak or ashamed if they want to cry (or worse, simply never have any urge to cry).

Most girls/women feel guilty or ashamed if they get angry (or worse, they simply never get angry).

It’s an interesting situation.

We’ve taken healthy and normal expressions of emotion (programmed into us by millions of years of evolution) and made them “bad” and “something to be ashamed of”.

Clearly, boys cry.

Plenty of people now feel proud of themselves for not crying, not raging and not being emotional – all because they think it means they’re strong, resilient and adaptable.

But is it?

Is that really true?

Dictionary definitions of “strong” include:

“having the power to move heavy weights or perform other physically demanding tasks” 🏋️‍♀️

and

“able to withstand great force or pressure” 💪

If we agree with those definitions, how can we truly define “not crying” and “not getting angry” as “strength”?

If you’re unable or unwilling to actually feel what’s happening inside you, whether it’s anger, sadness, guilt, shame or fear, as well as express it in a healthy way, how is that strength?

If you’re unable or unwilling to actually feel what’s happening inside you, all that proves is that right now, you’re unable or unwilling to withstand the force or pressure of your emotions and internal sensations – the very OPPOSITE of strength.

Or if we use the first definition of strength – “having the power to perform demanding tasks” – if you’re unwilling or unable to feel and express your emotions and sensations, all you’ve accomplished is proving that right now you’re unable or unwilling to perform demanding tasks. Once again… the very OPPOSITE of strength.

So all this crap about how “boys don’t cry” and “nice girls don’t get angry”?

It’s bullshit.

Absolute, total, complete BULLSHIT.

That’s why I started Rageheart.

It’s why I write these emails.

It’s why I’m always pushing The Rageheart Academy.

Because I want the world to stop bullshitting itself about fundamental human expressions of emotion and feeling…

…and discover the profound magic, healing, medicine, wisdom and STRENGTH that comes from ALL of our emotions (positive AND negative):

Anger and rage.

Fear, anxiety and terror.

Guilt, shame and imposter syndrome.

Grief, sadness and crying (sometimes sobbing so hard you can’t even stand up).

Yes.

There is medicine and wisdom is ALL of these emotions and feelings… the key is learning how to tap into it (instead of hurting other people and the world at large with emotional immaturity) 🎉

Like I said, this is why I started Rageheart. It’s why I write these emails. It’s what I do inside The Rageheart Academy.

Teach people how to feel in a safe, contained way so that they can unlock the infinite wisdom that’s already inside them.

I drop a lot of tips and guidance in these emails… but if you want to go deep, if you’re serious about this, if you’re truly committed to this path, the best place to learn is in The Rageheart Academy here:

https://www.rageheart.co/go/

Cheers,

John Wood

P.S. Know anyone who believes that “boys don’t cry” or that “nice girls don’t get angry”?

Refer them to The Daily Growl and help them realise that feeling (whether crying, raging or something else) is the strong, courageous thing to do.

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