Don’t be a rock

John Wood, Founder of Rageheart

by John Wood

Back when I was living in Thailand, I dated a girl who regularly told me I was a rock.

For the longest time, I thought it was a good thing 😍

It meant I was strong, right?




Just like a rock 🗿

This is what I used to look like.

But that was only part of it.

Think about it.

It’s all well and good to be a rock… but in case you’ve forgotten, rocks aren’t human beings 🤯

They don’t talk. They don’t feel. They don’t have empathy.

So being a rock isn’t always a compliment.

Maybe you don’t believe me.

Maybe you think it would be better not to have to feel your emotions just like rocks don’t have to feel emotions.

I used to think that too.

I was so proud of myself for how calm I’d stay during any of our fights.

My ex would be all pissed off about something and I’d be on the other side of the table, taking deep breaths and thinking mighty thoughts about my calmness.

I’m basically Yoda.

…I remember thinking.

I’ve mastered myself… just like the saints and gurus of ancient times.

Yeahhhhhhh… riiiiiiight 🙄

See, the thing is…

I was feeling all kinds of stuff during these fights – I just didn’t know it.

Sure, I was calm… but it was at the cost of disconnecting from myself.

Because hey, that’s what happens when we disconnect from what we feel. When we avoid the darkness within.

It disconnects us from ourselves. From our truth. Our purpose. Who we authentically are (rather than who we think we should be).

And eventually, since we’re not willing to feel the bad stuff, we forget how to feel the good stuff too.

As I’ve said before…

It’s all or nothing.

You either feel it all… or you feel none of it.

The good, the bad and the ugly.

Though once you’ve got some tools under your belt (like the tools inside Rageheart), you stop thinking in terms of good, bad and ugly when it comes to feelings.

Instead, there’s just feeling.



And it turns out, that’s exactly what needs to happen to unleash the beast inside you.

That’s where Rageheart comes in.

You get a whole suite of tools for working with your feelings.

How to go into them… and how to come out before you get overwhelmed.

How to actually feel what you’re feeling… instead of merely thinking about what you’re feeling.

How to stop acting like a rock… and start acting like a human being.

And how to create maximum space in your nervous system so that feelings don’t get stuck in your body and mind like they used to.

If that sounds good to you, sign up to Rageheart when it opens at midnight tonight.

Already a member and feeling the beastly impulse (Rage 9)? Hit the “Sign In” link on the page below and get after it:



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